As a single mother for several years, I have to admit that it is challenging. It’s a journey, and when looking back, I see many things that were previously unknown to me. I would like to share this with you, dear single moms and dads, how I believe we can be inspired and what has helped me on my journey.
Positive people
We are all surrounded by people who want our attention; however, now that we are limited in time and must devote our attention to our children, we must be more aware of people who soak up our energy and spend time with those who inspire us and have good and positive energy. Consider this: we are now on our own, with a wide range of questions and possibly a feeling of confusion. Some will seek other single mothers and will join specific groups. It’s nice to be with others who are in the same situation as you, but we must be aware that some of these groups may be negative and complain about their X-partner and their family, which will not help you move on.
As a result, I strongly advise you to surround yourself with positive people. Take a pen and paper and make a list of friends who you believe can inspire and support you. Every week or two, initiate a coffee or breakfast with someone positive to help you feel lifted.I divorced in a foreign country without the support of my family, but I used to call them frequently and they were the most supportive even though they were thousands of miles away. You have everything if you have family who will support you!
Keep a good health
You’re probably wondering how you’ll get to work, prepare the kids in the morning, and drop them off at school or kinder. When will I be able to participate in sports? health?
I had no idea how meditating every morning and doing 20-30 minutes of yoga or pilates with the YouTube channel would affect me. Imagine how I’d feel if I didn’t have it! Those who know me will get it. It did, however, help me to be more focused and less stressed.
According to research, there is a link between the body and the mind, as well as the importance of getting some quiet time and doing some physical activity every day. I am happy to share what helped me to keep going and not go insane and believe me, there were times when I thought I was going insane!
1.Go to bed at a reasonable hour. You are solely responsible for your own and your children’s well-being. Anyone who can help you is a plus! Sleep is essential for functioning and maintaining your sanity.
2. You should get up earlier than usual. How many of us say to ourselves as we turn off our alarm clocks in the morning, “Just another minute or two.” My friend once taught me to get up at 5:30 a.m. Yes, that is correct. You won’t believe how much I got done in the morning, she exclaimed! She used to complete the majority of her daily tasks while everyone else was sleeping.
I tried doing the same thing for a while, and it made me feel less stressed and more motivated. Today, I’ll get up at 6 a.m. as usual and meditate for about 30 minutes. Normally, I walk to get a coffee or do Reform Pilates before getting the kids ready and dropping them off at school. I’m not sure about you, but I get nervous and stressed when I wake up late.
3. Eat more healthfully. You understand what I mean. We, the mothers or fathers, feel the munch after the children have gone to bed. It’s fun to watch a movie with popcorn every now and then, but it’s not something you should do every night. Respect your body by eating well and feeling well!
You will notice a difference once you begin eating foods that nourish your body. Eat less red meat and avoid eating after 7 p.m.
4. Every day, try to meditate. Now that I’m aware of the benefits of meditation, I practice it at least once or twice a day. If you are not the type of person who enjoys meditation, there are other ways to unwind, such as going for a run, listening to music, riding a bicycle, and so on. You can do whatever you want as long as you give yourself some “me time.” You can also read more about meditation in The Mind Illuminated. When we are dealing with children, work, or when we are solely responsible, it is critical to pause and meditate. Sometimes all you need is 5 minutes to recharge your batteries for the rest of the day!
5. Make sport a part of your daily routine. As previously stated, get up a little earlier and go for a walk if your children can stay alone, or go online and you will find all sorts of videos that you can train with. Stretching and moving your body for little as 30 minutes. You can do something different every day. You will feel so much better during the day once you begin.
6. Attend a regular health checkup. Visit your doctor and request a regular health check. Get supplements as needed, or get a health plan so you can see a therapist. A therapist is always beneficial to have and to speak with about the things that are bothering you.
Read. Read. Read.
I believe that in order to develop and learn about situations, we should read, watch videos, and perform internet searches. You’re on the right track if you’re reading these lines. There are numerous books that offer inspiration, and practical tools to assist single moms or dads, such as The Single Dad’s Survival Guide in dealing with their divorce, change, and the challenges of raising children on their own.
Dare to do
I’m not sure about you, but when I was married, I didn’t really dare to do everything I ever wanted to do, and when I left, something released, and I’m a little embarrassed because the first thing I’ve done is buy a new couch for the living room!
Now is the time to consider how you want to live your life, what makes you happy, and how you intend to raise your children while remaining financially independent! You have the option of choosing this time. No one is telling you what to do or what is right or wrong. You have the authority to make this decision. Even if the decision is a bad one, guess what? You can change it again!
In summary
To inspire and motivate a single parent, surround yourself with positive people and include them in your support system. Remember that you are more vulnerable than ever before, and you must prioritize your health above everything. You can maintain your health by going to bed at a reasonable hour and waking up earlier to get things done before the kids wake up. Get into a routine that includes walks, sports, and meditation. Eat healthily, get regular checkups, read and research, and do what you’ve always wanted to do. You have the choice!