Who hasn’t had the experience of waking up and not having the energy to start the day? What a treat it would be to stay in bed and do nothing. or perhaps read a book? What can we do to simply feel better about the day ahead? Do we really need to be happy all of the time? Perhaps feeling less happy about things is normal and even healthy at times? As long as you are not experiencing this on a regular basis, you should consult a specialist.
As a single mother, there are numerous challenges and tasks to complete, such as cooking, cleaning, dropping off, picking up, after-school activities, and paying bills, to name a few. Sometimes, the first thought that comes to mind is not again…the same routine, I’m tired!!!
How can I shift my perspective on today and on life in general when I’m feeling down or stuck in a negative cycle?
Break the Circle
We can go on and on with the same thoughts and never get anywhere! So why bother?
Sometimes it’s just easier to focus on the negative thoughts, and as said before, this will create a loop. Our attitude towards these thoughts is ours, and you can choose to break it at any time. Nobody forces you to feel a certain way; it is entirely up to you.
How? Just stop, decide you’ve spent enough time on this, and maybe you’ll come back to it later because it may have been there to help you grow.
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Inspiring books?
Over the years I’ve read many inspiring books which helped me on my journey and helped me to focus on the moment like The Power of Now or Opening Doors Within Conversations with God and many more. I recommend dedicating even a few minutes per day to reading a nice paragraph that can quickly change your perspective.
Start small
When we consider how many things we should change and why I am feeling this way for the second time, etc… We may then feel helpless and sad. But, if we start small, as when we want to eat healthier, we can simply add healthier items to the fridge and begin. The same is when we want to change our perspectives. We are starting with small steps, such as reading something or talking with someone inspiring, and we may go for a walk. Anything we choose to do should be done slowly
and gradually.
Our expectations from others
It can be very annoying when someone does not think like us and things are done at work in a way that we completely believe is a waste of time. Surely, something in our ego and self-esteem has been harmed. We have no control over what others think about us or our actions, but we must ensure that we are recovering from and understanding that others have their own subjective and believe they are correct. How can we see their point of view? Can we connect to it in some way?
What is our intention with this issue? to maintain our relationships with that person or to be right and stand firm on our goals and ideas?
As noted previously, it is preferable to discuss expectations when we are truly listening to the other side and attempting to see through his eyes.
Is it ok sometimes not to be happy and motivated?
We would not know what it is to feel good if we did not experience sadness, which can be caused by the loss of a loved one or a hardship. We would also not experience self-growth and wisdom as a result of the hardships we may have faced.
Letting go
I’ve had a lot of thoughts in my life, and once I just let them go and realised that it’s there for a reason but that my thoughts will eventually change on their own, I felt so much relief. Did you know that we can have more than six thoughts in one minute? Trust the process and understand that if you hold a thought, it will stay with you for a longer period of time. Think of an apple right now, you will think about an apple, right? or believe you are unable to sleep, guess what? You wouldn’t be able to sleep. “Letting go” by David R. Hawkins is a beautiful book that a friend of mine recommended to me and I am happy to
share this with you.
What can prevent me from shifting my perspectives?
Being in the negative loop can prevent me from shifting my thinking to more inspiring or positive thoughts.
We sometimes need to understand why we think this way and what is causing us to feel this way, and this will prevent us from shifting our thoughts.
People can be very negative at times and have a negative influence on us, preventing us from changing our thoughts and actions.
Conclusion
In this post, I’ve shared my ideas and experiences with shifting our perspectives. I mentioned that we have the option of breaking the circle of our negative thoughts and disconnecting from toxic people. We can read inspiring books, but whatever we choose to do, we must take it one step at a time. We should also work on our expectations of others and recognise that each of us has our own unique perspective. There are things and people that can keep us from shifting our minds, and it is best to avoid them. It is sometimes healthy to be unhappy because it helps in self-development. Thoughts change so quickly that we must trust the process and accept that they will pass.